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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]See any attorney before you do anything. Not doing it can cost you so very much.

Understand that you and your husband will still be parenting together. Adding animosity is not going to help you. Talk to an attorney and then consider calmly talking about getting a divorce with him.

Abuse that is difficult to document and happened years ago is pretty useless in court. Everyone says that in a divorce.

The best thing you can possibly do for yourself or your child is to let go of any anger and try to handle this amicably, or, at least without any emotion. Just the facts. Accusations and drama are only going to make it harder. [/quote]

OP please consider contacting the House of Ruth, the Jewish Coalition Against Domestic Abuse (JCADA), or other organization that supports and provides services for women leaving an abusive relationship.  It really bothers me that people here are telling you that no one will believe you.  The best people in a position to tell you your rights in this type of situation are people who have experience with these issues.  My sister is exiting an abusive relationship and people believe her despite her lack of what a lay person would deem "evidence of abuse."  I sought advice on behalf of my sister before she separated and obtained a protection from abuse order.  The advice was invaluable.  I saw that one poster noted that counseling is not recommended where there is domestic abuse and that is excellent advice.  The other advice we received was to make sure you hire an excellent attorney that is experienced in high conflict divorce or divorce involving domestic abuse.  My sister followed that advice and it was excellent advice.  Her attorney understands how to deal with her abusive passive-aggressive one minute, raging lunatic another minute soon to be ex.

My sister no longer lives with her husband and while her divorce has been challenging she is so much calmer, peaceful, and happy.  Her kids are doing better too.  I wish you the best of luck.[/quote]

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