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[quote=Anonymous]I lost both parents relatively young, though not as young as some of the posters here. I was 27 when my father died and 32 when my mother died. Both of them were 63 and in great health until shortly before their deaths. My father literally dropped dead of a brain aneurysm. My mother had non-smokers lung cancer, undiagnosed, that caused a fatal stroke.

I am very close with my in-laws. I have a great husband who supported me unconditionally through both of my parents' situations, and I also have two wonderful young children, neither of whom knew my parents (both are named after them).  I received a fairly significant inheritance that is helped ease the day-to-day stresses of family life. My brother and I are also closer than we were before their deaths.

I've had anxiety all my life, and I've been medicated for it since 18. My health anxiety is currently pretty bad – I worry a lot about sudden illnesses, for obvious reasons. That said, I don't cry for my parents daily, although we were very close. Because I found out I was pregnant with my older son shortly after my mother's death, I feel like my life has been divided into two parts – the part with my parents and the part with my children.

Like a previous poster, it's sort of blows my mind to see my peers with their parents. Of course, my parents were just as healthy as theirs right up until their deaths, so that easily could've been me. It is just so mind-boggling to see these relationships (adult children with their own families hanging out with THEIR parents) knowing I can never have them.

As my friends' parents start to get older, I do feel that somewhat of a silver lining is not to have to watch my parents get old. I know it can be heartbreaking and I dread it with my in-laws.[/quote]

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