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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would do it at your home.

We did this for a parent.  We were in townhouse  replaced the dining room furniture with a medical bed. Our parent only lived a few weeks under care   Friends could visit all the time

[b]You will not want to drive to give care[/b] near the end

For your son it will be a live changing experience for the better

Difficult time to live through  the stress and pain can bring out the best and worst in your family.

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I'm a PP, and it's not about OP's driving convenience. It's about her mom's final days. Mom should at least have a vote, if she's able to, as to where she passes. OP can adjust to what her mom wants. If Mom can't communicate her preference, her HCP (probably OP) should decide what her mom would want for herself, not what is easier for OP.[/quote]

Death at home is not necessarily a painless, peaceful experience, despite all the hype about hospice.  I would think long and hard before inviting someone to die in my home when children are present.  Watching people moan and thrash around in agitation (not necessarily pain) can be very scary, and not all hospice nurses are capable of getting these symptoms under control.  I say this based on very recent experience.[/quote]

OP, I agree with this poster. My mom died in in-home hospice (out of state when I was a single parent, btw). Dying can be rough. It drove this teetotaler to drinking mini liquor bottles up in the guest bedroom at night, waking up some days praying the woman I loved most was already dead. Hospice care workers are amazing, and my experience with the people who work in it is that we (my stepdad and I) had people to answer questions and come sit and help with things before we even knew exactly how we needed them. Your mom's home might be best.[/quote]

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