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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I guess you all should have indoctrinated your now-SIL about your family 'culture' before she married into it.  You can't blame her for not following your preferred method of interacting with these 'wackos'.  Sounds like she recognized when they were out of bounds and declined to just go along with it.  I guess you're right that it's her fault there's now a breach but, from what you've posted, I can't fault her.[/quote]

It sounds like least a significant part of your family is used to being big jerks about stuff and having no one say anything, and you expected her to somehow know that everyone just ignores this or at least refuses to challenge this bad behavior.  But since you're taking her side, albeit reluctantly, it seems like she had a legit point, and your family members went nuts because they aren't used to anyone pushing back.  So yeah, she might have triggered this division, but her alternative was to be a doormat like the rest of you.  [/quote]

I don't get that at all. To me, OP sounds like she understands how this could have happened, and is willing to forgive SIL for it. She just wants SIL to let it go at this point, and SIL won't let it go. She keeps trying to drag the rest of the family into a family wide hatefest for the other relatives. That's the problem now.[/quote]

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