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[b]I've been working on the depression alone since our baby was 8 months old, so partly yes, I'd be happy working it on it alone.[/b]  I think mostly his comments about institutionalizing people with ASD's bothers me more.  I'm not violent.  I'm a fully functioning member of society.  I just struggle in social situations and other, smaller, things (like figuring out makeup).

And I really wish he didn't consider depression a character flaw.  PPD nearly destroyed me, in no small part because I didn't have the support from family and friends and yes, my husband, that I should.  He still claims lack of social support doesn't contribute to PPD.[/quote]

Here's the thing, OP.  I don't know that it's that important to be honest with your husband but not being honest with your husband means not being honest with your children.  Pps have mentioned the possibility of this being hereditary but no one has yet mentioned that it won't help your kids to hide this from them as well.  My mom hid her massive anxiety from me till I was in my 30s and so I didn't get any help from her in figuring out how to manage my own anxiety, which was pretty crippling at one point.  One thing I'm proud of is that my daughter tells me that it really helped her that I was upfront about my anxiety and what I did to deal with it while she was growing up.

There's a chance that your kids will have to struggle with the same things you're struggling with.  You can help them deal with it upfront by being honest about your own struggles. That means letting your husband know.  Sorry - that sounds pretty scary but I think it's better for  your kids in the long run.  Good luck with this.  I know it's hard and I think it's great that you're trying to figure out your way forward instead of completely avoiding it.[/quote]

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