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[quote=Anonymous]I think that as your kids get older, you will feel more comfortable leaving them.  Your ILs effectively raised their own kids, so it's not likely they'll do any major harm.

And for South Asian grandparents in the US, nothing you've said sounds crazy.  I know my mom occasionally uses her cleaning lady to help out when she's got my sisters kids (we don't live nearby).  Indian people, at least, don't necessarily look upon childcare providers as needing to be highly experienced and educated...just trustworthy and reliable, which the cleaning lady probably is.  My niece and nephew don't really like the cleaning lady, but they're not being harmed by her, and my sister lets it go since it allows her to occasionally take vacations/weekends etc.  The peanut allergy thing is obviously a big deal, but you don't sound very concerned about that being an issue anymore.

I don't really have advice on whether you should or shouldn't leave your kids with your ILs, but I do think that you're probably worrying over nothing.  Your kids will be fine with her, albeit maybe overly tired and cranky at the end of the visit.  It's up to you if that's worth it to you.  My sister has decided that it is, though she complains a lot.  This irritates me, since I don't have the luxury of nearby grandparents to provide free babysitting.[/quote]

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