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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]Also, don't most people ask before buying furniture?[/b] My grandma wanted to buy the crib, so she asked us to send us the link for the one we wanted. My ILs wanted to buy the dresser, so asked us what we wanted - FIL & DH brainstormed and picked it out together. Someone offered to get the rocking chair, but we had already picked up at a 2nd hand one, so they decided to get something else.

The people who didn't ask ahead of time were buying smaller items. OP, I think for the crib, you can let MIL know your plans - if she wants to buy the model you picked, that's great, if not, she can pick out something else to gift. It's not a big deal IMO.

Saying we already have a crib picked out is not the same as turning away some one's sticker book as a birthday gift. I think it's fine, and what you would do if you had a normal relationship with MIL.[/quote]

You'd be surprised.  And I also think it might have something to do with income level/need.  I'm the PP whose MIL would probably just buy whatever made sense to her at Costco.  I'm pretty sure my SIL would happily receive that, since it's probably nicer than what she could otherwise afford (or might even have to take on CC debt for).  We're in a financial situation that allows us the luxury to be picky, and we are.  This doesn't always mean the most expensive.  For example, we have an IKEA crib which I picked for having a very low profile to lift baby in and out and being made from non-toxic, sustainable materials.  But I know that I wouldn't have wanted/liked a different crib, even if it were more expensive.  I've noticed other friends making similar purchase decisions based on what's available at costco or on sale elsewhere.  It's unfortunate, sometimes, because Costco isn't always the best deal or value for money.[/quote]

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