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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Where is your family?  Why don't they visit you?[/quote]

We live overseas so they do not visit us for some reasons that are legit and some that are not.[/quote]

Pay for your family to visit you, as in buy the plane tickets.  You haven't said whether where you live overseas requires a visa or is considered "dangerous", so what are the legit reasons the family gives for not coming to you?

I live in DC but my inlaws live overseas in a major European city, which sounds exciting until you realize if you stayed in a hotel it would insult the Inlaws so we are crammed into a 400 ft flat next door to our inlaws flat.  There literally isn't enough room to play or sit down on the floor unless you put the futons upright.  God forbid it is raining or cold, because the kids can't play outside in a park and are stuck inside.  We don't have a car and I would honestly be terrified to drive in that city anyway. My inlaws take a cute picture of my kids sitting on their lap, post it on FB and then act like my kids are so annoying for breathing.  It seems all for show.  I don't understand why they beg us to visit but after 30 minutes they complain how exhausting having elementary age children around are.  And I don't expect to leave my kids with them for them to babysit so I can site see or relax. I am with them all the time.   And it's not like we can pack a ton of toys to occupy them.  It sucks.  And they want us to stay for a month.

We stopped doing those trips because it just was so unrealistic and illogical and stressful and stupid.  We now only go as a family in the summer, and we spend one week in that city and a second week traveling together somewhere else, and come back for a weekend before we fly home.   My in laws are odd, they show very little interest in my kids, their only grandchildren, but love to show off pictures of them, and I would like my kids to have some kind of relationship with them.  But if OPs family is anything like mine, sometimes you can't force what isn't there and do whatever is best for you.[/quote]

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