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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]People who had spouses who cheated in the past:

1) do you really ever trust them again?
2) do you wish you'd just divorced when it happened?
3) is your marriage better now?
4) anything else with your 20/20 vision from the future?

FWIW, we are a year out from the end of the affair.[/quote]

1. We are 8+ years out. Yes, I trust him but I do have occasional setbacks. I am 100% confident that he is faithful and has been since. 
2. No, don't wish we'd gotten a divorce. I DO wish I'd made him suffer a bit longer because we decided to reconcile.
3. Marriage is 100% better. We married young (21/23) and the affair happened about 6 years in. I did not really know how to be a good wife and was really verbally abusive to him. 
4. Like mentioned in number 3, I was verbally abusive and really immature about the way I spoke to DH. I'm assertive by nature but have no doubt that I was a complete bitch a lot of the time. OW was a coworker of DH's and she played the subservient, formerly abused/ fragile, role very well. I'm sure the idea of being the protector in this fantasy relationship was a big draw. Plus, OW was somewhat of a whore. That helped.

I will add that I don't think I could have reconciled if DH continued to be secretive, manipulative and shady. DH was very open about the details of the affair (as far as I know) and would answer my questions whenever I asked. It took about 2 years before I could think of the affair without feeling my heart in my mouth. I can't imagine how long it would have taken to recover if DH continued to be shady.[/quote]

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