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[quote=Anonymous]This is tough.  My DH's and my in laws are planners.  We know with my family it is hard to nail down plans and 50% chance they will flake out.  I think one suggestion is that you guys plan things. Then it is on your schedule. I also agree that you can take a few different approaches.

-You can leave an hour on other end blocked off assuming the day will be the same so you can be "flexible" within a range.  Give the range to your DH. Almost like you account for people that always show up late.  
-If it is food based, make a plan to have snacks of some sort so you won't starve if the time gets pushed back.  
-If they change it to a different day than agree upon, don't make DH go.  If you take DD, he can get a free night where he can make last minute plans with his friends or just relax.  Turn the flakiness into a positive for DH
-Be willing to say no if they reschedule for a time that would make you jump thru hoops or DH to be there.  Like if it was Super Bowl Sunday and you and DH had plans to watch the games together and whatever traditions and that's the rescheduled day or DH had plans to meet friends out to watch the games and now you need him to break those plans to either be home with your DD or come with you.

Hopefully between padding the time and occasionally organizing your DH will be included in spending time with your family.  Also if he doesn't have to say "how high" every single time your family changes plans, he may be more willing to deal with it once or twice a year and not mind as much.[/quote]

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