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[quote=Anonymous]So I am your DH and you are my DH.  We have this conflict a lot.  I have learned to just go with it a bit more, but I find it really irritating they have such a hard time just making a plan and sticking with it.  And yes, nothing is ever set in stone until the Thursday or Friday before.  It drives me crazy.  And yes I think it's rude.  I feel like sometimes the event is a place holder to see if anyone gets a better offer.  And then if they DO, they change it at the last minute, since it was never set in stone, I'm supposed to be ok with this.

There's a balance to be found though.  First a weekend is suggested.  Then I have my DH nail down which day (I do this by saying we have other plans and need to plan around them).  Normally we do things in the afternoon, so if we can get a day, I have a general idea of when.  The exact time, menu and location are often not decided until the day before.  I let those things go because there is no forcing it.  And trying to only stresses me out.

If they cancel the event at the last minute, I do not do a "make up" event.  For example a birthday.  I then won't squeeze them in if we're busy, we'll just miss celebrating that birthday and will see them when we have time.[/quote]

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