Reply to Could you stay with your DH if he cheated on you while you were pregnant?

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "Could you stay with your DH if he cheated on you while you were pregnant?"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My mom always told me "you work when you don't want to so you can walk when you have to."   So I work just in case something like this happens.[/quote]

This is such a dismal way of looking at marriage. To answer your question, OP, no I wouldn't, pregnant or not. [/quote]

Know what's dismal? Trying to re-build your life after you gave up your career for someone else's. [/quote]

most wives do not "give up their career" for their husbands career. They stop working by their own choice because they want to stay home with the kids or because they always dreamed of being a stay at home. The choice is almost never forced on a woman by the husband. Sometimes there are trailing spouses but that is not the most common reason a woman may choose not to work. Her choice is usually due to reasons that do not involve her husbands career progression.

Furthermore, most men who are single earners in their home do so at great sacrifice. It is very stressful to know that there is no backup income in the event of a layoff. Men working to support their wives when they chose to stay home is a very big gift they give to their wives![/quote]

Gift? Gross.

My mom gave up her very successful career and it was a terrible choice. Now she's trying to rebuild her career and applying for secretarial positions serving the position she used to hold.

I'll keep working and keep hedging the risk-- of him cheating, dying, getting fired, burning out. [/quote]

+1! SAHM is not a gift from DH, but rather a sacrifice/trust the mom (or dad SAHD) makes for the family. Cheating breaks the trust, dissolving the marriage and damaging the family.

I'm a SAHM now and if DH cheated, I'd divorce. I'd get back on my feet financially and show the kids that disloyalty has its consequences.

Dependency is not love. The ability to walk away from a deceitful relationship (which is what cheating is) is far healthier than being dependent on a "gift" which is a thinly veiled guilt trip and excuse to overstep boundaries.[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics