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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Two things:

1. Yes, it is common that the passion lessens over time. It doesn't mean you don't love the person, don't want them, don't enjoy sex, etc., but the intensity does go down a bit.

2. You want two contradictory things, and that's not really fair to him. You want him to want to be overcome with desire for you, going so far as to suggest you want him to push for more (and that perhaps you'd give it to him if he did, but that seems to completely conflict with a commitment to waiting), but you've also been very clear with him that he needs to restrain himself because you're not going to have actual intercourse until after you are married. You need to figure out what you want here and be clear about it in your behavior and your expectations for him.[/quote]

This.

OP  how old are you? Very young?

I ask because  I did something similar before I married DH. We were both young and I was a virgin, we did oral and manual sex before marriage, and  my now DH  was careful not to push things too far, but I also let him know I was okay with him initiating things.To my knowledge he has never cheated on me and our sex life is good neither of us are low drive.

Also, and I know you haven't had sex before, but there comes a point  where making out and oral while fun  can get pretty darn stale  if it never goes any further.

This has been going on 2 years, how much longer do you plan to wait, until you get married?

You really need to figure out what you want. There is nothing wrong with waiting, there is nothing wrong with  having sex, but you have to figure it out you can't tell him no sex , but then be mad he isn't  sexing you.

Because I have a feeling if he did  push things you'd be posting about your pig boyfriend.[/quote]

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