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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My in-laws are wonderful but are also of the mind set of "if it was ok for my kids growing up, it's ok for yours". MIL gets offended if she feels you are telling her her way is wrong.  I know when they watch DS ( about once a month), he watches more TV and eats more junk than I would prefer. BUt it isn't a hill I want to die on and I'm appreciative that they babysit.  Anyways, they babysat saturday and last night DS asked for popcorn.  I said he couldn't have popcorn because he was too little and he responded with "well Grammy gave me some!!"  So I asked him if he had popcorn at Grammy's and he said They had it while watching a movie.  Now I know 3 year olds like to tell stories but I don't know where else he would have had popcorn and he's never asked for it before. [b] DH and I are going away for a couple of Days and they are watching him.  I'm trying to figure out a polite way to go over foods DS absolutely cannot have without offending her.[/b]  [/quote]

Have DH review the foods that are a choking hazard with his parents and have them on a written list. Don't make a big deal about junk food other than to respectfully ask they balance it with healthy food.  He can couch the choking hazards in terms like he (your DH) didn't even know this until the pediatrician mentioned this, the daycare had the list, whatever way he found out so he figured they may not know. Mention that it isn't just that they can choke but it is harder to dislodge the items at that age. Assume that they don't know and of course now that they know they wouldn't want to take that risk.  I personally didn't know the age was 4 until looking this up right now.  I had guessed age 3 based on all the toys being age 3 and up due to choking hazards.

If it seems like his parents won't respect safety things then you can't leave your child with them until he/she is older.  As you said the more junk food and the more TV aren't going to be the types of things you can reasonably enforce with inlaws helping you out and I chalk that up to grandparents spoiling grandkids and having the TV to help give them a break.  However, if it is a safety thing and could put my child's life in immediate danger and it's clear that they are willing to take the risk and give my child something they know they shouldn't, then I feel I would be irresponsible leaving my kids with them alone.[/quote]

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