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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]or = or (no problem)
alright = awwight
more = moie (I don't know how to spell how it sounds)
ender chest = enda chest (we're playing mine craft lol)
Dragon= dragon (no problem)
World=wuld

DH says he asked exW about it maybe last year and [b]she took him to a therapist who said he'd grow out of it[/b]. 
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OP, that "therapist" was telling her what she wanted to hear, or just had not dealt with this much. He's not three, he's 10. Time to help him.

Please, work with your husband so that you and husband take the initiative now to get your stepson to speech therapy, since mom seems resistant. Is the issue here that his bio mom has him most of the time, so it would be somehow easier for her to take him to therapy sessions? Maybe you and your husband's schedule with the boy is one that doesn't lend itself well to taking him to regular therapy? (If you have a child in your home, for instance, only one weeknight plus every other weekend or whatever, yes, that's going to make it tough.)

But as a parent of a child who had the R problem, I strongly encourage your husband to step up here and do what it takes to get his son help now, and not let this go on. At age 10, this isn't something he'll "grow out of" -- it's well established and gets harder to correct the longer he does it. Is there a teacher at school who knows bio mom and whom she might heed if that teacher tells her that son has a noticeable issue and she should consider therapy? That could help, because I'd bet that the mom doesn't want to hear this from dad or you, especially now that mom can say she had an "expert" say it's not an issue. Then find a therapist who will also tell mom that this is indeed a problem that needs fixing. If she is still resistant, don't keep waiting for her -- find some way (Saturday sessions, if son is with you weekends only?) to get him therapy that includes lessons for dad and you in how to work with him at home.

[b]You mentioned a few posts back that kids have asked him why he "has an accent." Kids ARE noticing the problem, and once he's middle school aged, some kids may not be kind about it at all. In middle school, he'll be required, for grades, to do many more presentations in class, and it won't take long before classmates really notice this; he might get questioned or badly teased. Even if he's not ever teased, he, himself, is going to become more self-conscious about this just at the time when it's necessary for him to start getting up in front of his classmates and teachers more and more. Rather than struggling to correct it yourselves over a long time, please, get a good therapist who is used to working with (and good at motivating) kids his age. Using a therapist (plus the work you'll do at home) is the faster and surer way to deal with it.[/b][/quote]

I feel badly looking back and not knowing that you couldn't correct it, but lots of Asian kids in my high school couldn't say "r". Very bright kids, but they did get teased a lot for it. I remember a presentation on "World War II" and how we couldn't understand them at all. [/quote]

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