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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm going through the sane thing with my 12 year old daughter. I worry about her ALL the time.  One thing I've noticed is that I have been very critical of her and I know I need to do better and I've told her that too.[/quote]

I have a 12 yr old too. My parents were hyper-critical and as a result it's my nature to be that way too. Luckily I have friends who had kids before I did, and was able to learn that there's more than one perfectly acceptable way to do things and kids can still come out fine. So my daughter's top dresser drawer doesn't have what *I* think it should have. She's got a system and it works for her, so that's fine. I've gotten good at stepping back and thinking "what reaction does she need/want from me after saying this?" and it helps me to avoid saying things like "Ella cursed on Instagram - you're no longer allowed to hang out with her."

I worry about my girl all the time too - she has no idea how many hours I've stayed awake thinking and worrying. But I try to remind myself what I wound up yelling at my mother when I was a teenager - you have to have confidence in your parenting, that you've taught your kid well. [/quote]

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