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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Take a deep breath and let it go. Stop fixating on your mother. I couldn't tell you what my mother or mil talk to my kids about because I don't hover and dissect everything that is being said. Accept that your mother isn't the best, but treat her with respect nonetheless. Remember: your children are watching you. [/quote]

You sound as helpful as OP's mother. No need to dissect my sentence...I'm saying you're a bi*ch[/quote]

I'm not a bitch. I actually work with vulnerable populations, and I've learned that it's always best to accept people for who they are if you want a relationship with them. There are lots of mildly mentally ill people among us--and many more functional alcoholics. So many people were raised by parents who were abusive or incapable of showing love. You can't fix broken people. You can't make them treat you a certain way. If you want a relationship with them, then you have to accept them for who they are--flaws and all--and just let it go.

Happy people don't judge others and they don't hold grudges. They live and let live, and they exude love and positivity.

There was a great npr segment last week on a woman who hugged the person who killed her son. She said she had to forgive him in order to let go of the anger. Letting go of your anger is a gift you give yourself.

Or I suppose you can continue to stew and analyze and foster ill will.

I'd opt for breaking the cycle now. [/quote]

People like you are why I will not work in the mental health field.  I had a clinical preceptor tell my group of student nurses how sad it was that a schizophrenic was being denied custody of her children, after she beat the crap out of them.  She was so involved in the patient's sadness about her children that she couldn't see that this patient SHOULD NOT have custody of small children because she hurt them.

None of you are willing to tell the mentally ill to own their own shit.  Families pay a terrible price for the mentally ill person's dysfunctions and professional counselors, LSWs, and RNs all encourage the family to be tolerant and to continue to work to maintain a relationship.

You know what? Some people don't deserve a relationship. Some people are so abusive that their families SHOULD dump them.  Making the decision to dump them is not "fostering ill will," it's taking care of yourself. It's having healthy boundaries and refusing to continue to put up with further abuse.

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