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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is OP. I wanted to expand on my first post because I left out some information.

This is my child with little self-confidence and some anxiety issues. In high school, she had a history of under-performance in the social department. She was often lonely BUT both she and I know she is not socially incompetent so however nervous, she went to college really wanting to succeed - she did all the right things...joined clubs, leaves her door open, DOES get along with the roommate, volunteers, etc. just like she did in high school without success, so the fact that this is round 2 of no success is devastating to her.[/quote]

No success in what exactly? It sounds to me your daughter and you (by proxy) are trying to achieve an unwritten social standard that seems out of your reach. What do you mean by "under-performance in the social department"? Are you two trying to force a nervous introvert into a social-butterfly mold? This just sounds so wrong to me. If her social skills are truly lacking, you should be addressing this, but not by sending her away to "succeed" in something she "failed" before.

I would also be concerned with her lack of academic success. Is the major too difficult for her? Is she not willing to put in the work? Does she have any long-term goals, or was going to college a default option in your family/social circle? Is depression and/or anxiety an issue?

I really think you need to let your kid stay at home and attend a local CC. Reach out for help from professionals. (I don't mean to be too dramatic, and I'm usually the last person to send someone to a therapist, but your story comes across as worrisome to me. I mean everything I say very kindly and don't want to criticize or offend you.)[/quote]

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