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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I love my inlaws and I love spending time with them.  I think it really is about attitude, believing they have the best intentions, letting go of little details and being glad that they are here for my husband and my kids (and me, too!)  None of us are offended if someone excuses them self to take a nap or work on a project.

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Well if none of my in-laws were offended if someone excuses themselves to take a nap or work on a project, I wouldn't mind spending time with them, either. But that's not the case. I swear to you, if someone leaves the room for more than 5 minutes, my MIL is chirping like a parrot..."Where's Steve? Where's Steve?"

He's taking a dump, OK? We had chili last night.[/quote]

Maybe your MIL feels lonely in her day-to-day life and therefore likes everyone to be together on those occasions when she does see her family?[/quote]

Thanks for trying, but no. She has a husband, an active church life, several relatives in her area, etc.

THERE IS A DIFFERENCE between spending time together and expecting people to spend literally every second together. In my family, we spend a lot of time together during the day, and after kids are in bed, my parents are fine with TV being on, people reading magazines, going to bed, going out to the movies or for a drink, doing whatever. Or even sitting around together, in the same room, but checking your phone and reading a magazine is fine...

With my ILs, you have to sit there and have dedicated "chat time." It is considered extremely rude to peek at your phone, read a magazine, suggest a TV show or movie, etc. They must have your full attention. Which is why conversation is recycled and stale. They tell the same stories, talk about the same people, ask the same questions...and don't even LISTEN to the responses.[/quote]

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