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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It seems like you are mixing a few things up with infertility/having one child. You say you live far out, haven't made mom friends as quickly, etc. Those are really other factors that have nothing to do with having one child - it takes time to meet people and moms and make good friends - I have 2 kids and don't have a ton of mom friends and most of them I had before having babies anyway.

I'm sorry things aren't turning out the way you planned (truly, no snark intended) but try not to lump everything together and make real problems worse. It really does sound amazing that you conceived so easily last time with your fertility issues - I know it sounds cheesy but it does help to focus on what you are grateful for etc. It doesn't mean you can't feel bad about not being able to have more kids, but be careful not to spend you life focused on what you don't have![/quote]

This.  In some ways, having more kids can make it even harder to make friends, since you're busier and balancing more schedules.  And frankly, living far out can make it harder.  In the city, people spend more time hanging out at the neighborhood playground, things are walkable, etc.  But none of those things have anything to do with having an only child.

I also agree with those who say not to project your lonely childhood on to your child--you say your parents didn't let you invite friends over for dinner, etc.--presumably, you won't make the same mistakes with your child.  [/quote]

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