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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]No one wants to spend holidays with someone else's family which is what you're expecting her to do. She doesn't know those people, you're not even married to your boyfriend so she could be wasting a holiday on people she'll never even see again if you two break up. She wants to make lasting holiday memories surrounded by people she knows and cares about. Your boyfriends family isn't those people. How do you not get that?[/quote]

I'm not "someone else". She's choosing to spend the holidays with a friend of our mom's than with her sister and her boyfriend.

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I'm with your sister on this one.  [/quote]

Just because your sister does not currently have a boyfriend does not mean that her time is any less precious. She is not a child that just gets shuttled around and absorbed into what the 'adults' have planned. In fact, that she is going to be with a friend of your moms sounds like a lovely way to spend the holidays. OP, you are coming across as one who believes she knows what is best for another person and your sister is clearly telling you that she has ideas of her own for spending her time. Why should your sister be pulled into your life when, it sounds like, you are not willing to experience what her life is composed of on her terms?

OP, you sound a bit inner focused and your sister is gently trying to tell you that she has opinions and desires of her own. Respect her wishes or you will damage your relationship with her. Trust me, I know this scenario well.[/quote]

Of course her time is precious. We have always spent the holidays together including last year. This year, she's being so weird. It's like she's going through teen rebellion again or something. It's kind of odd to me that she'd purposefully spend time away from the only family she has in the area.[/quote]

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