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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm not talking about can't do his homework. He simply won't. [b]He is so rigid that he can not stomach the thought of doing anything he does not want to do. [/b]What do you do when his IQ, tested twice, is 140, but he is failing four subjects??[/quote]

Doing things because you HAVE to do them is an important skill for life as a mature functioning adult.  Does your DS have a diagnosis?  I would put him into a program like Unstuck and On Target at Ivymount.

I would not talk or emphasize his IQ but talk more about the value of hard work.  It does not matter what someone's IQ is if they won't do the work. Seriously, how old is your DS?[/quote]

Actually IQ is an important factor. I would not talk to the child about his IQ but in asking a question fro help IQ is important.  If your IQ is 140 that is quite high and actually can be debilitating. There is a law of diminishing return for IQs. I can't remember the exact number but I think over 140 is past the sweet spot. So he is right on the boarder.

If his IQ was 128, I would suggest one thing, but 145, something different.

I am not suggesting anything yet except some compassion and understanding that there is something going on, it needs to be addressed, and that the OP probably needs help addressing it from a professional, not an internet forum.

Is there a social factor, physiological factor, learning disability. I would not just assume a kid is being a brat if he is not doing his homework. There are simple solutions. For example, some kids do their homework and never turn it in.... email or a dropbox is tool that has solved that problem for many kids, finish... email.

Sometimes these kids feel like the whole world is against them: teachers, administrators, their own bodies, etc... the last thing they need is to have the parents against them also. It leads to stuff like cutting, drug use, depression... we are not just talking about a kid that is being a brat, kids don't want F's.

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A high IQ is not an excuse for not doing homework.  I have a child with a FSIQ of 150+ on the WISC.  He has an ASD/ADHD diagnosis and NOTHING in his neuropsych exam indicates that he is incapable of doing things that do not interest him.  He is expected and does his homework.

I cannot believe I am debating something this ridiculous...

There maybe other issues that keeps the kid from doing his homework but high IQ is not one of them.[/quote]

You are not debating something ridiculous you are debating something you don't understand. You are reading with colored glasses that were colored with your single solitary experience.

1. Step out of the box and imagine there are children different than your child. 
2. Reread a little slower because you have misread or misunderstood or just did not comprehend something .. maybe you just don't understand the concepts presented.

NOBODY said high IQ is an excuse, NOBODY said OP's child is not expected to do homework. So reread and relax. [/quote]

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