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[quote=Anonymous]I am very close to my mother, she was definitely the person I was closest with before I got married and she's still my go-to person after DH.

Like some PPs have said about their moms, she was great about not treating me like a child anymore when I went to college but it started even earlier than that.  She was pretty strict when I was little (through elementary school) in the sense that she let me know what I needed to be doing and I was expected to make sure I did it.  I've always been a rule follower so that probably helped a lot.  By the time I hit middle school, she didn't have to do much in the way of riding herd on me to make sure I was being a good kid and following the rules, I was doing it on my own.  At that point, she was more focused on supporting me emotionally and helping me through the awkward early teen years.

In high school, she still trusted to make good decisions even when she knew some of my friends weren't.  If I was worried about something, I could talk to her about it and she wouldn't lose her sh*t.  She was working long hours with a lot of stress so I knew she really needed me to keep my head on straight and keep focused on doing well.  Knowing that she was trusting me to make the right decisions had a lot more impact on my behavior than if she had been looking over my shoulder making sure I was.

When I went to college, she seemed so excited about me becoming an adult and going out into the world.  When she would ask me about classes, she wanted to know what I was learning and what I was excited about, not what my grades were.  She wouldn't grill me about how I was managing my time and if I was studying enough.  She was much more excited about who I was becoming as a person and the experiences I was having and still is.[/quote]

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