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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Don't push too much. Kids grow into themselves at different rates. The way is now is NOT how he will be forever. [/quote]

Completely agree with the above.

I truly empathize with the original poster's child because I was that one painfully-shy, all-alone kid all through school. I desperately wanted a friend, but somehow it just didn't happen. My parents were very worried about my lack of any sort of social life, but the more they encouraged me to "make friends," the more desperate I thought I would look if I actually tried to make one. That sort of perverse logic prevented me from really developing any true friendships between the ages of, say, 10 and 18. Yes, I know. Pretty much late elementary school through end of high school. Now, looking back (I'm 36), it appears to me that when I was in school, kids repeatedly made attempts to befriend me. I just didn't feel confident enough to reciprocate.

The good news is that my lack of a social life (or social skills) throughout my adolescence did not end up defining my life into adulthood. I've been happily married for 15 years, have two beautiful kids (whose social skills, mercifully, far outshine their mother's at their age), a professional job, and many friends. People who have met me after I had gone off to college, would have a very difficult time recognizing me in this post. In fact, I dare say that most of them would consider me somewhat of a social butterfly, for lack of a better term. They would be shocked to learn of the loneliness I suffered in my tween and teenage years.

The point is, even if your child has trouble making friends right now, that does not mean that he is doomed to a life of misery for the rest of his days. In fact, your kid has every chance of growing up to be a happy, productive, well-adjusted adult with a rich social life and close relationships notwithstanding a lack of friends in elementary school! (That being said, it wouldn't hurt if he happened to make a friend or two before he becomes an adult! :) But don't push too hard -- it might be counterproductive.) [/quote]

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