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[quote=Anonymous]Gave birth to a healthy infant after 50 through DE. It took surgery and multiple cycles to get there, much longer than we had thought.  This was to be the final attempt.   I had accepted that I was going to be an "older" mother but I defined older as 45 and never dreamed it would go to 50.  And now we have our child.  Pregnancy was not difficult, although age alone had me in the high risk OB practice all the way through and a planned C-section.  I was not their oldest patient and the nurses in maternity gushed (a little too often, frankly) that I was recovering a lot faster than the 20-30 somethings on the ward.

It will be harder to make mom friends, let's not kid around about it, though no way impossible.  I was in a Moms over 40 group early on and it was helpful but people were too scattered over the DMV to create lasting bonds.  Like PPs said, you don't have to tell your age, and do what you can to look and feel good.  Even with all that, the reality is that you won't look like the typical stroller-pusher with the pretty ponytail, and be prepared to be approached as the grandmother or the nanny.  My personal favorite?  When he was a 2 month old and a neighbor I didn't know remarked, "Oh, do you watch him?".    Uh, yeah, 24/7!

You will inevitably be "out of sync" with many of your pre-baby friends, as their nests are emptying now.   So if you thrive on "fitting in", forget it.  Now.

We ldo worry about the future and how to support our child having relationships and emotional support outside of the two of us.   Fortunately we are in a good financial situation.

OP, whatever you decide, I wish you all good things.     
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