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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You are giving her way too much control. Who is she to say that you guys can talk about grandkids, but nothing else? If she's not speaking to you, don't give her the satisfaction of grandkid updates. She either wants to be in your life, or she doesn't. Don't let her pick and choose.[/quote]

This.  Leave a voice mail:

"Mom, I've told you that I wasn't having an affair with anyone, let alone Bill, who is gay.  It hurts that you refuse to listen to me and that you don't want me to talk to you anymore, but I will respect your wishes.  My door is open: Let me know when you are willing to talk again."

Then stop contacting her.  No calls, no emails, no letters.  Not about anything, not about the kids, nothing.  She's playing an awful tune; stop dancing.   
     [/quote] Op here: I like this idea. I'm going to do it. Why should I keep her up to date with her grandkids if she doesn't even care to talk to me.[/quote]

Good for you, OP! I know you might feel guilty that she won't be in touch with your kids, but that's HER decision. It is a consequence of HER behavior. It has nothing to do with you or your kids.[/quote] Op here: Yes, I feel badly that she is choosing to not be in my life...and thus not be in her grandkids lives...and is blaming me for it.  I just can't carry this around on my back. I wake up thinking about her, wondering if today is the day she will call me, email me back...I go to bed thinking the same thing. It's just sad. But I feel like this helped a "light bulb" go off....this is her choice. I just need to keep repeating that over and over.[/quote]

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