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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Your goal needs to be being firm that you are not discussing this with him any further. If you can be kind, that's good, but not necessary. Ask yourself [b]"is HE being kind by nagging you about this and not taking your hints?[/b]"

[b]Don't confuse being kind with doing what someone else wants or expects you to do[/b]. Lots of people make this mistake. It's not  being mean to do something that doesn't meet approval.

I think this situation calls for a brief and to the point email since you have a hard time talking to him.
Say you are not open to discussing this anymore, you are not moving in with your parents, thank you for your support this far but I'm not going to talk about it going forward.

When he calls, texts and emails about it, pushing you, which he definitely will, you say "I already told you I'm not discussing this, thank you for respecting my decision" and hang up, walk away, whatever.

It's a life skill OP.[/quote]

Yes, clearly it's a life skill I need to work on. I'm great at boundaries with everyone outside of my immediate family. You make a good point - it literally makes me feel sick to discuss moving in with our parents. I spent three of four weeks in November, sick - all from lowered immunity due to stress. Thank you. [/quote]

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