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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I had a surgery that left me disfigured/scarred. It's not something that is obvious unless I take off my clothes. It's been years, but it's kept me from being in a relationship. I don't think I could bear the rejection or seeing disgust on a man's face. I prided myself on my looks prior to this and I know how visual men are. How can I bring something like this up and when or do I just ignore it and say nothing. Whenever I'm approached by a man I totally shut him down because I think to myself he wouldn't be interested in me if he knew what I really look like. It makes me feel totally unlovable and I don't really know why.[/quote]

This is all in your head.  I have an 11 inch long, 5 inch thick multicolored, multitextured, bumpy keloid on my back. It is truly ugly and like most keloids, it is growing. Apart from this, I am 5'9, slim, well dressed and pretty. The keloid has always drawn questions and stares when seen, but I never felt like it defined me and it never affected my confidence.  I have dated great men ranging from very good looking to very wealthy to very smart, sometimes all three, and am now happily married to a great man. If you let your scar define you, it will. If you consider yourself a great catch with a scar that gives you a story to tell and shows you are tough, that will be your experience.[/quote]

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