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[quote=Anonymous]OP, among my friends I have:
A woman who spent almost her entire childhood in hospital because of polio. She needs a cane to walk. She's been married 45 years with children and grandchildren. 
A  woman with crohns disease who opted as a teenager to have part of her bowel removed and live with an ileostomy. She married a great guy and they have 3 kids. 
A man with cerebral palsy who is married with three kids. 
A woman who was born with a very disfiguring skin condition that required almost a total rework of her face. Married with one child. 
A man with ulcerative colitis who has had extensive abdominal surgery -met his wife and they have 2 kids

I could likely list more.

We all come with our imperfections. There is a beautiful story called the scarlet hand or something like that. It bascically comes down to : a man meets a stunning woman whose only flaw is a tiny red birthmark that looks like a hand on her face. He becomes obsessed with it, and makes her a potion to take it away. She drinks it.. And the hand goes away, but with it, the very essence of everything she is, and she dies. That always stuck with me, because it is indeed what we perceive to be our imperfections that make us unique in this world.

I understand that this scar represents a lot of trauma in your life and a change in your body that you had a lot of pride in. It doesn't change who you are. You may want to seek some counselling on how to develop the esteem to "shake it off". I know it can be hard when everything changes, but you are stopping yourself from pursuing normal relationships because of it, and you deserve to feel happy in your skin. Please find a therapist or group that helps with these issues and free yourself from this. [/quote]

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