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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It is very common for people, [b]but especially for women[/b], to lose attraction to their partners in long term relationship. And just as you've stated, this loss of desire is specific to your actual spouse, because you are attracted to a potential new person.

I would suggest doing some research on this topic, like you are doing here, and you will learn this is not at all unusual, but is probably more the norm. One approach to this seemingly lost cause is to not fight the desire for others, but to actually use that to build desire for your partner. 
See this
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0sYguTPLpHE[/quote]

Why vs. men?[/quote]

I've seen lots of studies that show this to be true, yet there is no clear reason "why"
Here are a couple such articles:
http://www.mnn.com/lifestyle/arts-culture/stories/why-women-lose-interest-in-sex#comments-343208
http://www.webmd.com/sex-relationships/features/loss-of-sexual-desire-in-women
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2253479/Why-women-stop-wanting-sex-Nearly-HALF-women-suffer-lost-libido-devastating-consequences-reasons-emerging.html[/quote]

My guess is that most men's baseline sexual attraction toward women in general is higher and, so, remains high even if his wife, over time, becomes less sexually "special" in his mind. Even if his attraction to her regresses to the baseline, it's still high enough to support a regular sex life. A woman's baseline attraction toward the general population of men is, perhaps, not as high and, so, when her attraction to her spouse regresses to the baseline, it's not enough to support a good sex life. [/quote]

Yes, I agree.

I think another reason is that men are attracted to a woman's physical appearance, and unless she physically deteriorates over time at an extreme level, familiarly won't lessen his physical attraction dramatically.

In contrast, [b]a woman is attracted more to a man's displays of competence and his aura as someone with social status. Familiarity can definitely undermine that impression. He becomes some guy you see on the couch in his underwear who lets you boss him around[/b]. [/quote]

This explains what I read about investment bankers in NY and London when the financial crisis hit and they lost their jobs.  Once the guy wasn't an uber hypercompetitive breadwinner and was spending his days sitting on the couch watching TV, he was no longer the hot handsome husband, but a schlub.[/quote]

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