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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You are 31.  Stop overthinking things and just get married.  [/quote]
-1,000! Exactly the wrong answer! Think very carefully about what you want in life, in marriage and in the future because you'll be sharing it with him hopefully til death do you part.

Here's what I (a DW married for 20 years) suggest: live with him first. It worked for me and DH! Get to know him, good and bad. Can you handle his annoying habits? Do you both want kids? What values do you share: about friends, family, $$$, sex, politics, religion? What are your values for monogamy? Coparenting? SAH v. WOH? Prenups? Big v. small weddings? These issues will come up. For example, DH and I have different religious backgrounds but are compatible because we both dislike religion = easy! If you have different interests, can you give each other room to explore them? A friend's DH has a "game night" once a week rotating among the different houses, so she hosts once a month. Can you handle that? Do you like big parties or small ones? Cats or dogs? Travel holidays or family holidays?

Yes, many of these sound like minutiae because they are but if you have vastly different interests, goals and lifestyles, you'll be miserable.

Remember the old saying "married in haste, repented in leisure" and don't do it. Think and think again.
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