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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Oh, OP, my heart just aches for you. I think you really need to take this offer and get out, because this is not healthy for you. As to how to split the money, my first question is whether the monthly loan payment has been coming out of profits before anyone gets paid, or if you've been paying it out of your own pocket and then getting only $2k back as partial reimbursement? If it's the latter, the very first thing that has to be done with the profit is to reimburse you (with interest) for everything you've paid out for the clinic. Out of whatever's left, it would be completely within your right to keep it all. After all, you're the one who took the legal and financial risk of owning it (no matter how your father may paint it as him having done you a favor by finding this opportunity, you did him a huge favor by buying the clinics and keeping him employed all this time). If you would like to give him something, give him $60k. That would be approximately 6 months severance, so plenty to support him while he finds a new job.

Then, please take the remaining profit and use it to pay for a therapist for yourself to work on this. As much as you may feel you've largely moved past your abusive history, if you'd truly healed from it you wouldn't have allowed him to abuse you again in this matter (which is what he's doing). Abuse by your parents is incredibly difficult to recover from, and a skilled therapist can do wonders for helping you establish a healthy sense of self.[/quote]

The $8k payments have been coming out as an expense of the clinics, they have paid that payment monthly. Part of the problem is that he really does have very few skills, doesn't have a high school diploma, and was in a really rough point a few years ago, and I feel like I am responsible for keeping him employed or he may be destitute. The last time that happened he called me in the middle of the night threatening to kill himself. Thank you so much for your insight and kind words. [/quote]

PP here, OP, I've been where you were, both with my father until he died, and now with my sister. You are not responsible for supporting your father. Not at all. Not only is that not something you agreed to as a condition of being born, but we are talking about a man who abused you and caused you to flee your home when you were 13. He did so much damage to you, any debt you might have conceivably owed him has been long since wiped out. With all of his years managing clinics, it's not true that he has no skills because that is valuable job experience. He certainly has enough skills to find a job as a stock clerk or something. If his wife doesn't have legal status to work, she needs to get moving on that as well. All that is to say, he can support himself if he wants to, he's just found it much easier to leach off of you. People like your dad land on their feet once they realize the gravy train is over and they have to figure out something else.[/quote]

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