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FIL is leaving rehab right after Thanksgiving weekend and moving into our au pair suite in the basement. I just struggle with taking this head on because these aren't my sisters and this isn't my mother (my parents are dead and I have a good relationship with my brother and his family). [b]I just had a frustrating conversation with my MIL about the holidays and needed to vent/get perspective if I am being a huge bitch or if I really have a right to be frustrated and annoyed with their collective non nonchalance[/b].[/quote]

You are not a bitch.  At All. I don't normally play the gender card but no man would even ask that question.

You are doing a Great Thing in stepping up for your FIL. It's what you hope people will do for their family when need strikes, and the fact that you are doing it for your IL speaks a lot to the kind of person you are.  And your children see that, so you are giving them the best lesson possible in how to step up when life calls you to.

As for MIL / SILs, I'd be blunt and refuse to play the passive aggressive game.  Yes it's great to write an email for your husband for him to spend, but beyond that simply don't sugar coat things for any of the family members, and call them (politely) on it if they try to.

I also have immense sympathy for you on the fact that your MIL divorced FIL then felt free to wipe her hands of him and his problems.  Personally I think that is an incredibly weak thing to do as a parent. I can imagine divorcing my husband, I can't imagine just sitting by if he had a stroke and letting my children deal with the fall out alone.  [/quote]

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