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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]x a million. Having a depressed spouse is the worst because you are literally pulling an anchor (depression) while trying to keep your family's heads above water. It's so, so hard.

OP I was the previous poster who wrote about therapy and supporting my spouse through a difficult period of under/no employment. I seriously recommend therapy. It was actually covered under my insurance so the co-pay was minimal (and I used flex dollars). Therapy saved my own life because I was so stressed and anxious myself that I couldn't clearly see the line between being productively helpful and supportive and being a resentful nag.

It sucks OP. We all have to swallow our pride at times. If your DH was willing to work at Target, he can teach math for a bit.[/quote]

I totally agree.  I've been through this and it's so very hard.  You definitely need to get yourself into counseling so you can better see what you're facing and to help you make some decisions.  Depression is 'contagious' and you need someone with perspective to help you.  I ended up giving my DH an ultimatum (that I was prepared to carry out) because his lack of employment/underemployment and untreated depression were causing significant issues in our relationship and with our kids.  I had to consider what was best for them.  My DH was able to turn it around but he's still making a fraction what he used to but at least his depression is under control and he enjoys his work.  Hugs.[/quote]

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