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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Let me simply the issue.....

1. My husband lost his job as a school administrator and our income dropped 50%
2. He wasn't able to get a replacement job as an administrator so he swallowed his pride and looked for jobs as target, fedex.... and eventually started bartending.
3. He doesn't make as much money now and I don't think he is pulling his weight around the house....
4. I want to divorce him....
5. DCUM be nice and support my decision to leave him[/quote]

I didn't actually read that at all.  It's seems like OP has been waiting and waiting and waiting for things to get better and they haven't been.  She wants to be talked off the ledge.

I've been there, done that with an underemployed DH but in my situation it was totally his fault.  He decided that he didn't like his career field so was unemployed for about a year and underemployed for about three years.  It was a rough time but we got through it and we are in a much better place, better than if he'd stayed in his original career field.

I know with young kids and a DH who isn't pulling his weight it's hard.  And I can only imagine the bartender lifestyle isn't helping the situation at all.  I think you need to sit him down and work on a plan of action together.  Step one, he gets his certifications back.  Step two, he gets on the substitute teaching roster in your school district on his days off.  Step three, he gets a job.

I know his ego seems to have taken a beating but you need to fully support his going back to teaching.  Focus on the positives of that career (all the breaks off, snow days, etc).  You'll get back on track but you have to communicate, be positive and show your support to help his self esteem.[/quote]

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