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[quote=Anonymous]My DD is similar to yours, OP, minus the ADHD, family tragedy and the meds. But her behavior is almost identical. Why? I can't imagine, and I am as frustrated by it as I can possibly be!

My (current) approach is to back off and let her flounder. There's less stress that way, although it just kills me to see my brilliant child get B's when a little more attention (turning in homework on time, for example) would get her As!

A friend with a similar child said she regrets helicoptering him so he could get into college. She thought it only delayed his maturation. She thought it would have been better if he went to CC for a year or so, and then transferred into a four-year college.

It would kill me to send DD to CC, but perhaps that's the best road for her? She's not me, she's not ambitious, she does not push herself, and is that so bad? She's nice, people like her, she has many friends.

Growing up, the smartest kid I knew got terrible grades. She was and is super-sharp, but she didn't like academics. She ended up going to a LAC, getting a degree and later going to UMD for a master's degree. She found grad school a breeze, and now she has a low-key job. Not everyone is cut out for the big time, OP. Some people, gifted as they may be, just want to be content. I suspect DD is like my friend, difficult as it is to admit. And I have to let her be who she is, although, as I said, it's killing me. [/quote]

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