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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I agree with firm boundaries, but you also have to confront things that you may not have been comfortable doing before.

For example, my family is very right-wing with racist/sexist/homophobic tendencies. Pre-kids, I would just redirect or move away from conversations when these things popped up. Post-kids, I think it's important to follow others' advice (talk to kids about values/things that will pop up prior/follow up afterwards - "Well, gram and pap think this, but that's not very nice and here's what dad and I think..."). BUT I also think that it's important to lead by example. So, if my dad says something racist in front of my kids, I say, "Dad, that was really racist, and I don't think it's appropriate to say things like that in front of your grand children."

This works out as well as you might think, by the way. Sometimes it gets really confrontational. But there have been surprising incidents where people who have been called out have stopped that behavior (at least in front of me/my kids). [/quote]

Oh god. Maybe you are so liberal you are annoying[/quote]

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