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[quote=Anonymous]This post really hit me. I'm going to have my DH read it. 
We get along well with everyone on my side, and see them frequently. We also get along pretty well with most of DH's side (cousins, aunts, uncles). DH has a difficult relationship with his parents, who both have serious health issues, but we try to be cordial anyway, and visit them frequently. We also took them in for 2 years during one inlaw's recovery period. However, DH is more or less estranged from his sister and her spouse. The issue is from resentment on how she has handled her parents' (my inlaws') caregiving, which is to not be overly involved. My husband feels like the majority of the work fell on him/us, and its never been acknowledged. I've tried to tell him that things are never equal in this arena, ever, and that he needs to drop it, but he thinks all the expectations were levied on him because he is the oldest kid, and little sister happily took the lesser-responsible role, despite us asking her to do more.  I personally believe he just needs to forgive and forget for the sake of the family, but I can't make him do that....
Anyway, now she has young kids, and we have young kids, and the cousins don't know each other (they've seen each other twice, ever, despite only being 2 hours away). And that makes me really really sad, despite us having other cousins in the area. [/quote]

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