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[quote=Anonymous]There's something sort of like this, though not as severe as most of these posts, on my in-laws' side. My inlaws are wonderful people, genuinely nice and kind and sweet to everyone. For some reason, MIL's brother and his wife and their grown daughter have no interest in communicating or getting together -- ever. They all used to be very close and then about 6 years ago the contact stopped. MIL has no idea why. She has asked them and they just say everything is fine and it's nothing she's done, they're just busy. At first it wasn't as obvious because they lived far away, but now they live within 30 minutes of us. We have seen them exactly once in 6 years -- at our wedding. They never respond to invitations. They rarely answer phone, email, or text from anyone on that side of the family (MIL, FIL, my DH, or my SIL who also lives nearby). MIL's brother grudgingly gets together with her once or twice a year when she comes to visit us (she comes to visit monthly but he is only willing to see her once or twice a year). He has never met or shown any interest in our son, his only nephew.

I don't care particularly since I didn't grow up with them, but DH is hurt because their daughter is his only first cousin, and they used to be very close, and she apparently wants nothing to do with him or anyone else in the family but we don't know why. It's a shame too because her daughter is only a few years older than our son and it would be nice to get them together on occasion. But the kids have never met despite being only 30 minutes apart! After being rejected multiple times, we've stopped trying altogether. MIL is terribly hurt but keeps trying. We've all told her to let it go but she can't. To her family and friends are everything. I admire that attitude but I'm not one to go crawling back if I've been kicked enough times. I may forgive, but I never forget. MIL always forgives and forgets! So instead, we are very close to cousins and nephews/nieces on my side of the family. But I'm always sorry to see how upset MIL gets when she visits.[/quote]

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