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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why are you guys all okay with snooping and reading your husbands texts? Would you want him on your phone? And don't say "I have nothing to hide" - it is still snooping.[/quote]

+1.  I would be livid if my spouse confronted me about a text message exchange.  I had an ex-gf do this to me, I handed her my phone, went for a walk and told her to give me back my phone when she was content that she had snooped sufficiently.  I dumped her the next day.

Unless your DH is the biggest idiot in the history of the planet, you have zero to worry about.  If he was cheating with this woman, he would be communicating with her on a secret account.  He would be meticulous about keeping a deleting her texts.  He sure as hell wouldn't give you access to his unlocked phone.  [/quote]

Sorry, but lots of people think they are going to stay on top of the deceptive part of cheating, and don't.  Telling an AP to text only rarely and then deleting selective texts is a lot easier than using a burner phone and trying to hide it.  But people get sloppy.  I know at least two people who caught their husbands cheating with co-workers based on text messages that were on an unlocked phone.  Selectively deleting incriminating ones, but leaving ones that were plausibly work related.

People get insecure and people sometimes need reassurance.  I certainly wouldn't dump my husband if something made him feel so insecure that he felt that he needed to read my text messages.  I'd want to know because I'd want to help rebuild his sense of security in our relationship.  I certainly wouldn't dump him for it.   (And frankly, I have nothing to hide and no expectation of privacy from him on my phone; we're partners.)  It's weird to me that some of you are so secretive about text messages.[/quote]

Even in marriage there is privacy. It's weird to me people feel it's okay to read personal text messages that are not on their phone.[/quote]

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