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Post a list in the kitchen. Get a whiteboard. Have him take complete control of one household chore and either routinize it (sweep on Thursday evenings.), or have it be his ongoing thing (every dish in the sink, he rinses and puts in the dishwasher--everyday, all the time.)

Get your list out of your head. It's not real to him. His eyes are different. Where you see an opportunity to gather all of the scattered laundry into the washing machine, he sees as a chance to make eggs for the kids (or not).

It's not a moral failing or stupidity. Think of it as cross-cultural. He operates from a difference place. 
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This. I've been with my husband for nearly a decade, and he didn't really 'get' household chores until we did this. Now, I literally pick 3-4 chores that go into a daily chart. This way, DH can visualize what needs to be done, and we aren't regularly overwhelmed by everything that needs doing.

I saw in another comment, OP, that you were frustrated by how long it takes your husband to complete tasks. This, unfortunately, is going to be the case. It still takes my husband 2-3 time as long to do some things as it would take me. But, I've learned to step away from those things instead of hovering and wishing that he would do stuff the way I do it. The important thing is that he's taking something off your plate. Don't micro-manage him, even if his style is vastly different from yours. [/quote]

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