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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is exactly our situation, OP.  DH and I have been married almost 15 years.  In all that time, he has not made any new friends.  He had one friend when we met, however the friend moved away after a few years and they did not keep in touch.

We moved to this area not knowing anyone, so I worked hard to meet people and make new friends.  I've made a few new friends but we don't have any couple friends and I doubt we ever will, since my husband is awkward socially and doesn't really know how to talk to other men (he has told me this).  He has difficulty relating to other men because he's not a "guy's guy" and has zero interest in sports, beer, cars or tech stuff, so he doesn't know what to talk to other men about, both at work and in his free time.  Usually when we socialize with other families he spends all the time taking care of our toddler (and not really talking to anyone), while I do the socializing with both the moms and the dads.  He plays on a sports league twice a week, and has for almost 10 years, but doesn't know anything about the other guys on his team, and has never socialized with them outside of games.

I'm resigned to the fact that my husband has no interest in socializing, and that it's all up to me to make friends for our family.  We have no local family and we have an only child, so it's super important to me that we have "family friends" to spend time on the weekends with and spend holidays with.  But when it's all up to one person to make the family friends, it's really hard, and so I haven't been as successful making friends as I'd like, and I do think a part of that is because my husband has no interest in getting to know the other dads.

But I just do what I can do in terms of being friendly with the moms, and I hope that we will eventually make some family friends, though it will be harder since my husband doesn't make any effort at socializing.[/quote]

Thanks for this. Sounds like you really get it. You said it well...it is really hard to be the only one working on making friends. [/quote]

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