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[quote=Anonymous]If you tell friends, my advice would be to provide some guidance on what's helpful to you. If you think "how's it going" questions will annoy you, let them know. If you want frequent check-ins, let them know. After being super-private for a year, I decided to be open. It's been helpful to normalize things, and to just let friends know what types of shit I find useful versus unhelpful--e.g. when friends have brought up adoption, I've said, "yeah, that might be an option...but it feels kinda like me saying "I'm starving!" and a friend saying "you should learn how to play the ukulele"--a nice suggestion, but totally unrelated to my current quest. I've found that one of the things that's so hard about infertility is being excluded from the "mommy club." Talking about how I've lost pregnancies, how hard this shit has been, etc., makes me feel a bit more connected to friends....and that's a good thing. Good luck![/quote]
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