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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]Even though I told him all that was in the past and that I love him with all my heart, he still feels like he's been duped. [/b] He's also extremely angry that I hadn't wanted to experiment with him while I had "no problem" experimenting with the other guy.  When I asked him what I could do, he said he wants to "revisit" our past relationships talk and how many guys I've been intimate with.  He also wants to know more about my ex and who the second guy in the threesomes was.
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This isn't just about sex nor about what happened in the past. It's about what happened RECENTLY when you lied to him. You may think this is about "trying this or that" but the reality is that you were lying to him right up until the moment the bitch let loose and he found out in a pretty horrible way. The fact you were given a chance to come clean about anything and everything in the past and opted not to really is twisting the knife in him.  Current talk about experimenting and what happened in the past are really just a cover for the issue of trust, which you have had shredded before him in his eyes.

This humiliation is going to hang over him for, well, as long as you have some of these friends. His trust in you, currently non-existent, is going to take quite awhile to recover, if at all. You can have a totally honest and truthful conversation with him about this and everything else, but even then I'm not sure if he is willing to move on. Honestly I wouldn't be surprised if he were to dump you for the lie even if he said he has gotten over the sex bit (or you have eventually tried something similar with him).

I'd be more than cool with an fiancee who had a threesome in the past. But one who lied to my face about it when things were getting serious is something I'm not sure I could get over.

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