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[quote=Anonymous][quote]I've been pretty bummed out lately that I've had several women that I was interested in dating, who expressed interest in me, who said they didn't want to go out after I mentioned I had a son (in texting before the date). I guess I should be grateful.[/quote]

You sound like a nice dude and I'm certain you'll find the right partner, if that's what you want.

I'm responding because there are a lot of women out there like me, who don't want a relationship with a man who has kids under ~20 or so.   We are not ogres.   I wish them (you) well and you are probably awesome.

It's just that women like me (and there are lot of us in the 35-55 pool) don't want to care for kids [i]again.[/i]    I have no illusions about how many legitimate needs your son is going to have in the coming years ... because I'm a mom myself.  And your son's need are 110% valid, but I don't want to deal with that all over again.   I'd rather travel to the Galapagos with a girlfriend, for ever more, if you know what I mean.

And the women who don't have kids but say thanks/ no thanks when they learn you have a child?   They correctly judge themselves that they don't want to take on that large amount of emotional weight, mundane work (soccer games!) and, quite frankly, compromise.   And that's OK.   
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