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[quote=Anonymous]OP here. No one waiting in the wings. And, while I did not marry him for money (trust me, I knew I would be the one with bigger earning potential since I have two advanced degrees and he has just a BA), he gave me the impression that he was a go-getter who, despite having faced challenges with his LD, was motivated and interested in succeeding professionally and wanting better.

To the PP who has asked why I don't call a plumber, find a realtor, etc., I do ultimately. I try to delegate and he doesn't do anything. But the big problem is that when I DO call the shots (which is 95% of the time), he complains and whines and gripes about it. It's a catch-22. He won't fix the plumbing project he started 6 months ago. I call them plumber and pay the $500. Then he complains about the cost and the job. I ask him what vacation we can take this year (we take one trip per year) he won't give answers or won't commit for months. I have to book something otherwise rates will go up and make it unaffordable. So I do. After months of asking. And then he complains about the trip, destination, cost. When I pay! I try to make appointments with realtors but cannot unilaterally put our condo on the market.

If he were beta and laid back about it, then I could embrace the alpha status. Instead he is beta but then complains when I make the decisions! There is nothing worse than paying for trips or making plans, after getting no input or commitment, only to then get yelled at and complained to!

From camps for the kids to halloween costume choices to paying bills. He won't do it (or doesn't) but then criticizes me. I try to get him involved. I ask. I nag. Nothing. Then there comes a point when somethjng needs to be done!

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