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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Decide on how much interaction you are comfortable with and stick to that.  You don't need to tell them the schedule, but if they call every day and you prefer weekly, be unavailable every day.  Call them back weekly when you have a chance to talk.  Ignore ALL comments about "it's been soooo long since we talked".  I'd prefer texting, so if they are open to that, suggest that.

Get your DH to run interference.  Perhaps HE can call them every day to give an update if he's ok with that.

Don't worry about possibilities that are not problems yet.  One thing at a time.

The most important thing is to help your DH explain why this is too much for you and for HIM to help you deal with them.  [/quote]

+1  This is all good.  You don't have to call everyday just because they want you to.  Call every week, and ignore the guilt trips.

Your husband really needs to run interference on this.  I'm a huge introvert, and my in-laws cannot abide a moment of silence.  They literally talk constantly, all day, every day, and it gives me headaches.  They are nice people, but I can't handle several days of this.  My husband did two things--he accepted my very real need for some quiet time every day, and he helped make it happen.  I can "take naps," read a book in another room, etc., and that allows me to recharge my batteries and be social again.

It sounds like they mean well.  So give them the benefit of the doubt, and don't borrow trouble.  You don't have to establish boundaries on principle; just figure out what works for you and then do it.  [/quote]

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