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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op, resentment kills a relationship. Not being as close but having no resentment is better than putting in more effort and feeling resentment. It's a balance. And never is "they should do x or y" because that's what's fair/or right/or loving - ever going to be helpful (unfortunately) People may bend to accommodate once an objection is known but seeing someone else out of obligation will not be satisfying to either party.[/quote] OP here. You're totally right. I think the only way to stop the resentment is to back off on making effort for a bit, then re-evaluate later and wee where we are. Maybe they'll step up and start making an effort. Maybe we'll decide some amount of effort, even if unbalances, is worth it after all. You're right, though. I need to get rid of the resentment to move forward with this relationship, and I think the only way is to stop making sacrifices for the time being.[/quote]
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