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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]  OP here...it was great for a while, but it starts to wear on you.  My husband is great in all of those areas too, but it takes 2 to keep a relationship alive, that is my struggle right now. It feels like I'm the one keeping things going even though he is amazing at all "once prompted".... think hard. If you are feeling this way now, I can tell you - introverts don't change.[/quote]

I know you can't enter a marriage thinking you can change someone, and I swear I'm not trying to change him, but I'm concerned about the contemplative thoughts I have had in my mind. I am an extrovert and we have always been able to communicate without problems. In fact one of our strongest traits in our relationship is we have excellent communication, but now that we're on the path to a formal engagement I am beginning to see the bigger picture and I'm not sure I know how to deal with it. I love him and there has never been a lack of sexual interest, but I am Catholic and he was born and raised that way by his family, though nowadays he is non-practicing. This isn't really a huge issue between us but it doesn't help matters. Most of the things that we do is because it's my suggestion. He is very accommodating and generally a positive person. He just doesn't express a lot of facial emotions including smiling, but he's witty and funny and all my girlfriends think he's hilarious when they are around. He's frugal and I'm not showy, but I like the nice things in life. Most of the time he goes along with it too, but I always feel a bit disappointed when it comes to gift giving/exchange. I'm not a greedy or high maintenance person, I have no issues shopping on sale or in outlet centers, but I appreciate quality and it's true "what you pay is what you get" in most instances. 
I'm just not sure how much of this is HIM so much as ME who has the issue ... I don't want to make a mistake and end up feeling unfulfilled in the relationship just because he's an introvert who likely doesn't change over the course of a lifetime together. [/quote]

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