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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You can go online and file for him.  Then help him with the paperwork and just take him or have you parents take him to the doctor's appointments.  I did it for a family member.  It can take years to get disability so do it now.  Then, you apply for low income housing.[/quote]

I tried this for over a year. He refused. He will not go to any appointment or allow anyone to visit and get the process started.  I appreciate how bizarre and unthinkable that is but there is no way to get him out the door to an appointment and if he won't show up they won't just start cutting checks.

I don't think he'd even cash the checks. He's a conservative too and believes he's a self-made wealthy guy who just needs the right lawyer to get his assets back and that the government would charge him with fraud if he "pretended" to be poor. But he has nothing. Not even a credit card. My mother gave him a gas card and keeps a small bank account for him in her name.

Ok I'm making myself too upset. Lord. It's been like watching someone die for years. Or the walking dead.   [/quote]

Ok, so you aren't willing to help or get it.  HE IS MENTALLY ILL.  He is not capable of doing this himself.  I flew cross country to do the online paperwork for my relative.  You can go online and do it.  They schedule the doctor appointment [b]and you just need to take him[/b].  You have the money deposited in an account and you or your parents become representative payee and manage the money for him.  He doesn't need to know about the money.  You just need to get him to one doctors appt.  You do the application online and just need to send in a few documents like birth certificate, SS card, etc.  He cannot do this himself.  No one is visiting.  Step up and help him or stop complaining about what will happen.  He will become homeless and live on the streets or in a homeless shelter if you do not help him get on disability and low income housing.  If he says that stuff to the evaluator, its obvious he has a problem.[/quote]

Not OP. How do you "take" a grown man who is presumably around the size and strength of an average adult male anywhere that he does not want to go? If you show up and say something like, hey, I need you to come somewhere with me... how do you react to a simple "no"? It's not like OP can just pick him up, carry him to the car, stuff him in, then drag him through the parking lot into the doctor's office. If he's refusing all help, there's very little OP can do.[/quote]

We do it all the time.  We tell our family member that they are going out to eat and making a quick stop.  The other day we told them they were going to an appt. for my husband and just keeping him company.  She call apply on his behalf.  If he will not go to the appt. they may be able to look at medical records or do something else.  Bottomline is someone needs to apply and she is not willing.[/quote]

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